Final review
The Self Developmental Path
SEPARATE → REMEMBER → DISCERN → QUESTION → RECONCILE → ACCEPT → DEFINE → AUTHOR → INTEGRATE → EVOLVE
- SEPARATEWHO AM I WHEN I AM NOT PERFORMING A ROLE?
- REMEMBERWHAT CONNECTS THE PERSON I WAS WITH THE PERSON I AM?
- DISCERNWHAT DO I ACTUALLY LIKE, WANT, AND PREFER WHEN I STOP EXPLAINING WHY?
- QUESTIONWHICH PARTS OF ME WERE GIVEN TO ME BEFORE I COULD CHOOSE THEM?
- RECONCILECAN DIFFERENT PARTS OF ME BE TRUE AT THE SAME TIME?
- ACCEPTCAN I RECOGNIZE MYSELF WITHOUT CONSTANTLY TRYING TO IMPRESS, FIX, OR PROVE MYSELF?
- DEFINECAN I DESCRIBE MYSELF ACCURATELY WITHOUT MAKING MYSELF SMALLER OR LARGER THAN I AM?
- AUTHORWHAT QUALITIES DO I WANT TO CULTIVATE UNTIL THEY BECOME PART OF WHO I AM?
- INTEGRATECAN I REMAIN MYSELF WHILE ADAPTING TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE, PLACES, AND CIRCUMSTANCES?
- EVOLVECAN I LET MY IDENTITY EVOLVE WITHOUT TREATING CHANGE AS BETRAYAL?
The Self Principle
I AM NOT ONLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN.
I AM NOT ONLY WHAT I DO. I AM NOT ONLY WHAT OTHERS SEE. I CAN KNOW MYSELF, REVISE MYSELF, AND STILL REMAIN MYSELF.
Central Question
CAN I KNOW WHO I AM WITHOUT REDUCING MYSELF TO A ROLE, LABEL, HISTORY, EXPECTATION, OR PERFORMANCE?
Separate
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Remember
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Discern
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Question
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Reconcile
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Accept
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Define
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Author
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Integrate
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Evolve
Each movement answers a different identity problem.
Self Path Capstone Review
Before leaving the Self Door, answer:
Identity
Who am I now?
Continuity
What connects the person I was with the person I am?
Differentiation
Which parts of my identity are actually mine?
Inheritance
Which parts were given to me?
Complexity
What contradictions can I now hold without needing to resolve them?
Acceptance
What part of myself no longer needs to be constantly justified?
Definition
Can I describe myself accurately?
Development
What quality am I deliberately cultivating?
Integration
Can I remain recognizable to myself across different environments?
Evolution
What am I ready to outgrow?
Final Question
WHO AM I BECOMING — AND WHAT PART OF ME DO I WANT TO MAKE SURE I DO NOT LOSE ALONG THE WAY?
The Self Path In One Line
SEPARATE → REMEMBER → DISCERN → QUESTION → RECONCILE → ACCEPT → DEFINE → AUTHOR → INTEGRATE → EVOLVE
The Self Door Field Phrase
I DO NOT NEED TO FIND A FINAL VERSION OF MYSELF.
I NEED TO KNOW MYSELF WELL ENOUGH TO CHANGE WITHOUT LOSING MYSELF.